Comments on: Troubled Relationship – Part 1

By: Assenuespenly

Assenuespenly — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:39:15 +0000

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By: attracting.woman

attracting.woman — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 16:45:07 +0000

Most of the losers in distance relationship that I've discovered are added by the hold and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was made by the insecurity of the couple as they do not conceive that the distance relationship will study but at the one time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you project to have this kind of position, desist from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the love and relationship. In a distance relationships, both partners must be devoted and active in adding the relationship to a high level.

By: sharongilo

sharongilo — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 18:01:32 +0000

Someone mentioned selfishness — marriage certainly takes a good amount of selflessness with the ability to put your spouse first at times. Other important behaviors I’ve compiled in “A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage” (Boston Globe #1 pick) — http://www.ashortguidetoahappymarriage.com — come by and visit!

By: naveen philip( distinguishing myself from the other philip)

naveen philip( distinguishing myself from the other philip) — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 13:47:09 +0000

friends normally last a lifetime – maybe bec u dont have to see them and their drawbacks everyday. or maybe bec the bond was never as strong as a marriage.relationships now are put under many strains and lot of them probably has a basic element – women have now financial independence – their parents support their independence- male egos are being eroded with some spouses earning more or having more friends than them and so on. we men have lived most of our life being taken care of and have seen dad s being taken care off – suddenly the world is changing and no one has trained us for it.so is that a justification – absolutely not but some times it is better to subject the male ego to small shocks initially instead of giving it as a single dose:) . having said that males have to start treating their wives as companions in a journey – maybe as part of their school friends – enjoy activities together ( start with the kitchen – cleaning dishes is good way to kick off) take care of kids ( ur part responsible at least hope u r:) holiday together and so on. and be there as a emotional pillar while she is non stop chatting about her work and a hundred other things u have no idea about. women need respect and a person who will be a companion. some times with so much past we men take them for granted – our games – our travel – our beering sessions and clubs take a priority and before u know it there is no string connecting u both – our moms were forced to stay with our dads more often than not on social compulsions and children. there are no such compulsions now. the world has changed and both men and women need to factor in that change. be friends – have fun together – share responsibilities – don’t make major compromises – it will eat you later – small compromises every one needs to do – u do it with friends .

life is meant to be fun – enjoy life together – and if you have made mistake admit it. dont fight before kids or others. and if your wife doesnt get along with your mother in law its perfectly ok.

have read thru the various views and comments and more or less agree with the general direction. trust respect love etc are definite pillars. but i feel fun and communication shd be also there

By: Priya Q

Priya Q — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 08:27:48 +0000

hi Philip…what exactly do u mean when u say “is there something more there than should be?” …. I didn’t understand ur comment!

By: Philip

Philip — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 18:22:06 +0000

And while I am at it: “7 year itch is no more than a misnomer;” — is there something more there than should be?

(Please feel free to not publish these comments.)

By: Philip

Philip — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:53:51 +0000

“Tennis star Sania Mirza recently called off her engagement with her fiancée on incompatibility grounds.”

Surely you meant “fiancé”, didn’t you?

By: winnie thomas

winnie thomas — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 09:31:00 +0000

still too young to comment on such a topic though have lately seen couples parting and that too after being together for years together. i seriously feel this is a post that could really help couples going through such troubles… looking forward to Troubled relationship – part 2

By: Priya Q

Priya Q — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 06:32:21 +0000

well said… watch out for my views in Troubled relationship – part 2

By: Anjana

Anjana — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 06:29:31 +0000

A healthy relationship,be it a marriage or any other, is based on the building blocks of love,respect and trust. Compromise and adjustments happen automatically as long as the former 3 factors are present. Moreover according to me, compromise and adjustment should not be equated with a loss of face for the person doing it. We make adjustments not because we are inferior or our needs are less important. It’s a sign of how much we love the other person. Even if any one of the 3 factors is missing ,the relationship will not be a balanced one.