Composed Volcano

I was surfing the net where I chanced upon this particular blog post by Sasti Prema from Bangalore which is a nice read…. thought of sharing it with you…If you are interested to guest post on this blog please check on the guidelines.

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There is a saying that men must work, and women must weep. For better or worse both  sexes have both the options.

A man woman relationship is full of complexities. A great deal of the relationship lies below the surface,A lot of it depends on that something unspoken.

The earliest cross gender relationships are between parents and children. How the child will react to the opposite sex depends a lot on childhood. If the opposite sex parent has been kind, and loving the child grows up to trust the other half. If not there will be an attitude of suspicion. Many spouses wonder why they cannot earn the trust of  their partner. This is  possibly because of childhood patterns and not the present situation

Siblings may have difficult relationships. Girls may feel the boys are being better treated. Boys may feel the girls are being pampered.Sibling rivalry and dislike between the sexes is common On the other hand one may feel protective to the other. Girls often hero worship their brothers.

Before marriage young people do not know much about the other. They need time to find out one another`s likes dislikes, and attitudes.

Marriage is a testing ground.In today`s scenario many women try to be mock men with disastrous results. The complexities of a man and those of a woman are not the same. The man tends to be physical, where the woman is emotional. Their attitudes to family and money are different. In any case they are different people.The man is proud of his manhood, the woman of her feminity. This preserve should never be encroached upon.

Ultimately men and women have the same needs, but their behavior and social requirements are not the same.

A man wants to be admired. A woman wants to be loved. A man wants status.A woman wants comfort. A man lives for the moment. A woman thinks in long term measures.

Marriage is a great adventure. It changes with time. My mother used to say that as butter is made by churning bu, a relationship is churned with time and effort.

It is a thrill to live with a person of the opposite sex.This thrill is there to some degree in live in relationships. There the thrill is largely physical. The uncertainty that dogs such a relationship tends to take the joy out of it.People stay in such relationships, often because they do not have the means or commitment to get into marriage.

Never take the other person for granted. Look and do your best for him or her. Watch your tongue so you do not hurt, a person`s self esteem. Love, or least appreciate the other person all you can. Be generous with your compliments, and sparing with your criticism Enjoy the relationship. It will bring out the best in you.Keep it alive, and dynamic. you are lucky to have it.