Well, good news for the lovey doveys this year is that Shiv Sena is busy doing more important stuff like vandalizing Shah Rukh Khan’s poster, trying to break in theatres etc so probably one can expect a peaceful Valentines Day this year. Or is there another repeat of pink chaddi or a hug karo pub bharo campaign round the corner?

Anyways, this post is for those who wait for 14th February every year to tell their girlfriends / boy friends / spouse how much they love and care. I was generally browsing through the net to catch on the Valentines Day buzz this year. Frankly the prospect of following any of these Valentines Day ideas and thinking of the reactions from my partner thereafter itself makes me laugh

For example Valentines Day Ideas on one of the sites says – Start the day by filling up the room with red roses. Wake up your partner by showering him/her with rose flower petals. Well, I refuse to do it since I care for him. Don’t want him to fall off the bed early in the morning! People really do this? I have seen it in movies of course…but real life…really?

The next idea that follows – Proceed by making breakfast for your beloved. In case you don’t live together, give your beloved a good morning call to wake him/her up.  In my case my partner likes to wake up by himself besides I prepare breakfast everyday! So should I make it different by not cooking that day?

I don’t want to even mention the other ideas that were mentioned thereafter. Frankly, it does make me wonder if marriage has made me too pragmatic! But I find it funny to see couples dressing up, planning romantic lunches and dinners and cutting out pink hearts on 14th February (only to pull out your dagger to pierce that very heart the very next day! ).

The contention here is why wait for one day every year when you can do things the Valentines Day sites suggest any / each day of the year. What stops you from planning a candle light dinner with a simple or elaborate meal at home any time during the year? You can or rather you should go on a long drive when ever you feel like! If you are a greeting cards person, pick them up as and when you feel like saying sweet nothings to your partner! Deliver flowers to make your partner’s day; you don’t have to wait for his/ her birthday to come by!

Anyways, I shouldn’t be spoil sport for the ones already making big plans for the Valentines Day. So especially for you guys here are 24 Valentine’s Day sms that you might like to use to flatter you partner every hour of this special day! Here’s wishing you all a happy Valentine’s Day!

SMS 1

Loving is not just looking at each other, it’s looking in the same direction. Happy Valentine’s Day.

SMS 2

For you see, each day I love you more
Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.

SMS 3

U r unique
U r caring and
U r the Best.And I am d luckiest to have U in my life!
Happy Valentine’s Day my sweet heart!

SMS 4

Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart. As we are, Happy Valentines Day sweetheart.

SMS 5

Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you. This is for you, my soul mate who is the love of my life.

SMS 6

Life is so short, so fast the lone hours fly,
We ought to be together, you and I.
Miss you every hour and every moment of everyday sweetheart

SMS 7

I finally got my past, present and future tenses correct today. I loved you. I love you. I will love you forever!

SMS 8

In School, They Taught Me That
1 hour = 60 Mints
1 Min = 60 Secs
But They Never Told Me That
1 Sec Without You = 100 Years:

SMS 9

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart. As my love for you..

SMS 10

If I reached for your hand , will u hold it ?
If I hold out my arms, will u hug me ?
If I go for your lips, will u kiss me ?
If I capture ur heart , will u love me ??

SMS 11

I never saw so sweet a face
As that I stood before.
My heart has left its dwelling place
And can return no more.
Be with me forever.

SMS 12

Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.
Will you spend the rest of your life with me?

SMS 13

Don’t wait until it’s too late to tell someone how much you love, how much you care. Because when they’re gone, no matter how loud you shout and cry, they won’t hear you anymore.

SMS 14

Wen things go wrong…
Wen sadness fills ur heart…
wen tears flow in ur eyes…
always remember 3 things
1) I’m with u…
2) Still with u…
3) Will ALWAYS b…

SMS 15

I luv my eyes when u look into them; I luv my name when u say it; I luv my heart when u luv it; I luv my life when you are in it.

SMS 16

As days go by, my feelings get stronger,
To be in ur arms, I can’t wait any longer.
Look into my eyes & u’ll see that it’s true,
Day & Night my thought r of U..

SMS 17

I would cross a thousand oceans just to hold you tight. I would climb a thousand mountains just to be with you every single night. Darling I miss you so much.

SMS 18

I would never be tired of you even if I am with you all day long. In fact I grow to like you a little more every day. I love you.

SMS 19

I m on a mission:
Misson 2 avoid u,
2 forgetu, 2 get rid of u,
2 not 2 talk 2u or meet u,
in short….
MISSION IMPOSSIBLE!!

SMS 20

Ur precious love has
turned my life completely around,
I feel lik Im wlaking but
my feet dont seem 2 touch d ground..!!

SMS 21

Relationship doesn’t get closer by meetings, but it is sweetend by THOUGHTS. I care for you in my own STRANGE ways. Maybe you will never know,  Maybe I will never show..

SMS 22

To be honest with you, I don’t have the words to make you feel better, but I do have the arms to give you a hug, ears to listen to whatever you want to talk about, and I have a heart; a heart that’s aching to see you smile again.

SMS 23

The only regret I have is not knowing you since the day I was born – so that
I will be able to spend my ENTIRE life with you.

SMS 24

Sending you my bed to let you rest, pillows to give you comfort and my blanket to keep you warm. I can’t sleep now coz’ I’ve lent you all my things already. Gd nite! I love you.

Read about the history of Valentines Day. Apparently it wasn’t a greeting card company who invented it!

You have already read people’s views and comments on this subject in troubled relationship – part 1.

The post received quite a few interesting comments from the readers. My views are no different. But since I have the whole post space to myself I have the freedom to elaborate on my point of view citing few examples ofcourse!

In addition to what Avinash and Pradeep had to say, what I think is that in our youth we search for that right one who would understand our pulse than no one can. When that person comes our way we feel our search is over or that we might not find any one better (as the case may be!). In the initial excitement of what can be called love one forgets or rather ignores the not so happy aspects of their partners. We feel those things would go away somehow for that is the phase where you lay lot of importance to the word love and understanding which makes you full of hope. (so speak up when you have a chance…later your partner might not understand what the fuss is all about)

Few might argue that, that’s the way it should be – accentuate the positives forget the negatives. And that if you really love your spouse / partner you will accept all vices along with the positives etc etc and, guess what?.. I do agree! My argument would still be that if “some of the vices” are bothering your partner, and is being communicated to you more often than not; then you definitely need to look into it. When you start feeling your opinions and feelings are not valued, impression you get is may be your partner doesn’t care enough. (show you care)

Another option few take up is by completely ignoring such issues that might lead to disagreements and disharmony. They are hesitant to speak to their own partners about the challenges for they feel that their partner might get offended. But whom are we fooling here? I agree with Raj when he says that you should not take you spouse for granted. Give a patient hearing and resolve issues. If you have a better suggestion, give or else make peace with what is being suggested to you. (communicate, be a good listener and find a mutually satisfactory solution)

Trouble is part of your life, and if you don’t share it, you don’t give the person who loves you enough chance to love you enough.  – Dinah Shore

I feel that the potential problems between couples need to be openly communicated and not stifled. That is the only way things would work. The risk you run by stifling your emotion and feelings is moving slowly towards irreconcilable differences where you fail to see eye to eye. And that’s the end of it. And more than anything its respect towards your partner, than love that starts fading. (important to earn your partner’s respect year after year)

I used to be surprised looking at this couple (both of them head strong) who supposedly had a love marriage but hardly had any matter or subject where they had agreement on. And funnily (or unfortunately) they made disharmony the way of their life. Well, whatever works for them!

For me what is important is sharing, caring and open communication. Make your partner feel special and important enough for you to open your heart out. Don’t make you partner feel left alone. Those were the cheerful thoughts one generally has earlier on and it doesn’t have to change with times. (stop being indifferent)

Stop reading your partner’s mobile messages in their absence! Give enough breathing space to each other. I know of someone who doesn’t “allow” his wife to have her own circle of friends let alone friends of opposite gender and a guy who keep deleting messages from his friends of opposite sex for his wife is ever suspicious!! (trust your partner…have faith)

Many a couple find it more comfortable to talk to their friends about their marital challenges than their own partner and if infidelity follows you can’t feign surprise. Sadly that only happens when the partner is less receptive and just doesn’t want to change. Breaking a relationship is far easier than nurturing one. The question is if one is up for the challenge. Relationship is troubled only if either of the partners refuses to reach a mutually satisfactory solution and stick to ‘my way or the high way attitude’.  (again…communicate, be a good listener and find a mutually satisfactory solution)

“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – William James

Marriage is a two way street. Today most of the partners don’t have patience to stick to any unacceptable behavior like in older times. You don’t have to look far. If we look at our parent’s generation we will find enough and more examples of sacrifices and forever forgiving attitude. I had a friend once commenting jovially about his parents that “if divorce was an option my parents would have been divorced 100 times!”

If you look at it subjectively even that wasn’t a very perfect arrangement either. Healthy relation is where you help grow each other, nurture, and care enough for each other.

Varsha made a valid point that – wouldn’t things be simpler if we were, ourselves be able to abide by all ‘self help advice’? Well, me thinks that’s the only way to go! The day you let ego in between the two of you, life is doomed. You do things for each other not because you have to but you want to!

The reasons for a troubled relationship might vary but the solution is just one….own up to your mistakes, be open to learn, forgive and be open to change for a better future together – in other words commit yourself to the relation with full heart.

I completely with Anjana that “A healthy relationship, be it a marriage or any other, is based on the building blocks of love, respect and trust and even if any one of the 3 factors is missing ,the relationship will not be a balanced one.”

It’s just been 2.4 years since my husband and I got together, and life couldn’t have been more beautiful. Well, we do have our share of disagreements and arguments, but we are learning and working towards my dream which is – me silver haired and him probably with no hair and set of denture (hehe ) sitting in our dream home somewhere on the hills very much in love talking of our fun filled journey and enriched lives. Amen:) !

Tennis star Sania Mirza recently called off her engagement with her fiancée on incompatibility grounds. I was in two minds. Whether to mentally congratulate Sania on her stand early on in her relation or be skeptical for I know of many young couples with zilch resilience. Presuming the reason is not the latter one I would say good call!

I have wanted to write an article on this subject from a long time. Thanks to the falling apart of couples all around me!  Couples don’t seem to be blinking an eyelid before mentioning the dreaded D word. 7 year itch is no more than a misnomer; couples are parting ways as early as one year of their wedded life or as late as 20 years.

I decided to take opinions from both genders on this subject. Here goes….

Aninda Sen, Single, Employed (print media)

“I think that today’s high rate of divorce and incompatibility is a tell-tale sign of lack of time that couples spend with each other, do things together and more importantly grow together. Chasing a dream lifestyle means working out of different locations, time zones etc and its a recipe for growing apart. At a deep level, it’s about understanding LOVE and COMMITMENT. I think most people are not quite sure what it really means to share ones life with another. This may stem from the fact that folks don’t want to make any trade-offs with their lives – trading off something of value for something which has a higher perceived value.”

Suhasini Ravi, Single, Student (NY University)

“I think compromise is the key to any relationship. If even one person is ready to compromise for someone the other, that makes it very easy to keep a relationship going. Secondly, trying to complement one another rather trying to change one another is also very important. Space and freedom for each individual is required in a relationship.”

Avinash Krishnan, Married for 15 yrs to his college sweetheart, Self Employed (Web related)

“The main reasons for incompatibility these days: 1. Projecting what you are not during courtship leading to disillusionment later 2. Putting self before the relationship. In other words a strong reluctance to sacrifice ones way of life, desires etc for harmonious continuation of the relationship. Reluctance to ‘adjust’ with each other. 3. Finances – with both earning, concept of ‘my’ money and ‘your’ money rather than ‘ours’, can be the death knell.”

Girija Acharya , Single , Employed

“It is very much the responsibility of both the partners to help each other strike the right balance between their new relationship and the existing one’s in their life [by this ,I mean the family and friends of your spouse/partner]  and also respecting the individual space of your partner. Also, honest, open communication is a key ingredient for a healthy relation. In most cases the relationships that don’t work are the one’s in which either one of the partner [and may be his/her family] or sometimes both the partners have the complex that they are the best and that “we are always right” kind of an attitude. Basically, they are bad listeners.” Possessiveness, parental interference in marital affairs are other reasons of trouble. Having said that, even after putting in great efforts to make a relationship work, if it doesn’t work, it’s ok to part ways!! (If you keep a wound un-nursed for long, it becomes septic, causing its own demise)

Himani Aggarwal, Married for 5 years, currently on a sabbatical nursing 1 year old baby

“Relationships are troubled in general also and in specific terms also. It depends on how important the particular relationship is for you to fix and leave. More times than not, the many challenges of life that can impact a couple can be worked out if they are paid attention in an early stage. Else, issues just might grow and then hinder the relationship in totality. I personally believe that relationship can be sweet and open only where you can be what you are and not the way the other want you to be.”

Pradeep Chakraborty, Married for 15 great years, Tech Industry analyst and blogger

“You will run into trouble when selfishness creeps into any relationship. How many couples ask this question seriously before breaking up: why were you together in the first place? You need to accept your friend/partner with all of his/her positives and negatives. The day you don’t, you are asking for trouble!”

Varsha Ranjit, Married for 3 months, Employed (Media – News)

“Ego is something that we all are aware of, we talk about it, but when we ourselves are faced with it, we most likely let our egos do the talking/ reacting. Relationships generally tether delicately on what the power equations are be it between parents and their children, between siblings, between man and woman. In today’s day and age in most man-woman relationships, egos do a lot of talking and it’s so often we see long 5 year old relationships nose diving into nothingness because the ego takes over. Its the bitter truth, but here the concept of a compromise comes into being, you give some and you take some…so you give some space to your partner and then you get some space yourself, talking issues out is another way of dealing with issues…but having said all of this, wouldn’t things be simpler if we were, ourselves be able to abide by all ‘self help advice’?”

VV Rajan, Married for about 7 wonderful years (only getting better), employed (advertising)

“I consider myself lucky to be married to the girl who is my wife now. Ours was an arranged marriage and given my own choice I couldn’t have had a better soul mate! I am saying this out of experience more than anything else. I don’t think I loved my wife then than how much I do now. I guess that’s what compatibility is all about!  While a relationship to me was all about taking things for granted, to my wife it was all about clarity, transparency and doing the right thing no matter what wrongs she was exposed to! I guess time was another factor that made me fully realize that life is not meant to be taken for granted and I am thankful that I don’t carry that attitude anymore! A relationship works better when you place priorities of your family first and then of the others. I guess most of us make this mistake of having a laid back attitude and taking things for granted especially when it comes to your spouse! And while in a relationship we also tend to procrastinate… There never comes a time tomorrow, it is always now!”

I leave you with these thoughts for today…my views on this subject will follow in the next post…

Best
Priya Q

p.s: Thank u so much guys for your views. Much appreciate!

Now who wants to be perfect? We all do things that we get innate pleasure from but are either too embarrassed about our tastes or are not too comfortable disclosing our lowbrows. But who cares! It’s your life and you live it just once….

So today I decided to jot down few of the things I find intrinsic happiness in and I had absolute fun doing so….

1. I can indulge on a chocolate cake / pastry or doughnuts on a full stomach
2. I love buying cheap clothes from Lajpat Nagar, Delhi more than any branded stuff
3. I have a fetish for shoes and clothes
4. I love collecting fridge magnets, flags and other curios from countries I travel to.
5. I can’t stop from taking a look at myself if and when I cross a mirror..anywhere in the world
6. There was a time I used to religiously listen to a Spanish learning cassette everyday. All I remember today is Hola!
7. I stare back at people who stare at me till they drop their gaze
8. No matter how high on calories I love making cakes and watch the smile it brings to my family and friends
9. I love watching cookery shows and have diaries with my copious notes
10. Whenever I cook for someone I always say it’s doesn’t taste good. It’s a win-win… I get compliments if the food tastes good…and I still get good remarks if the food is just about ok…since it will any day be better than what I made them to expect!
11. Psst I once in a while catch up on TV soap. It’s amazing how you can follow the story even after a month break
12. I can sit for hours watching the rains and reeling in the fragrance of the wet soil
13. I love getting drenched in the rains, dancing and making a fool of myself
14. I am a sucker for romantic books and movies (not MBs…not anymore)
15. A touching movie can get me to tears very easily.
16. I love catching up with my sister on phone discussing the humdrum even if it means dialing an outstation number. Q often exaggerates saying that if I sneeze my sister has to know!
17. Bollywood gossips? Please tell me!
18. I can’t stop myself from buying stuff while in a home store. I love doing up my home.
19. I am absolutely paranoid about getting fat and drive my friends nuts with my question…”haven’t I put on?”
20. I always look at the table next to mine and see what’s being served there while I am at a restaurant. Somehow, it always looks better than what I order.
21. I always smear orange marmalade on my toast more than what is required and lip smack in between
22. I chuckle at Calvin & Hobbes comic strips. I simply adore them and have the whole collection. Thanks to Q.
23. You tell me now and I can get ready to travel anywhere…I just love exploring new places and making new friends
24. My priced possession is my diary with poetry like words. How I wish I could pick writing them again.
25. I travel to another world and love getting lost in it. People can make out when I do it from my far off looks
26. I secretly admire my friends who have a comment to pass at every person crossing our way. Wish I was half as observant
27. I love wrestling and tickling is my only defense mechanism
28. I love days of nothingness …where all you do is eat, sleep and read

And last but definitely not the least…

When life hands me lemon I take tequila shots …. Common it’s too good!

Those were my guilty pleasures…why don’t you jot down yours….you surely will love it

Anyways, how things would have got simple and clearer just if we were able to see that tiny dot on the map of life. Well, no regrets but there are times I do feel if I could have taken a different course. If things would have been different, had I taken a different decision? I am sure it is an universal issue and most of us face the same dilemma as I at times face; just that the phrase “No regrets” sounds fancier

When you are in close quarters with the picture you can’t make out if the picture is hung up straight or it is tilted. It is always easier for a person standing at a distance to figure that out. So when we are in a typical situation our thoughts are clouded based on the situation we are in, based on the people that are around and based on our past experience. We take a decision fully convinced of it. Its time and experience that makes you ruminate over decisions otherwise.

Btw how many of us would actually want to be on that map? Where at every crossroads you take a calculated course based on the destination its pointing you to for example You will be most happy in this job, this job will purely sap you out, this job will help you in the long run…etc etc
If you ask me, I am happy with things the way it is. I need no map. I feel that we become a better and stronger person with each passing experience. It is good to be in control of your life but what fun if it becomes mechanized? But I do stop at times and think of the thought process I had in the past. Helps me learn and act better.

• When you are in a state of mind where you think all decisions you take cannot be wrong
• When you let complacency enter your style of work and attitude
• When you start to refuse to listen
• When you refute all justified objections
• When you spring to object on being criticized

That’s the time you need to realize probably you are or are on the brink of getting overconfident. You might think that you are the most open minded person but in reality it might not be so; because in your mind you have already stopped looking and listening for options.

The ousting of the Indian team in ICC Twenty 20 world cup gave me the idea to write this article. If this article is relevant to the topic…may be may be not. You tell me?

After all, what went wrong with the champions of 2008? Was it overconfidence? Was it team frictions? Whatever it was, today it has given a chance for people to consider the 2008 surprisingly pleasant victory a total fluke! What a disgraceful exit! People have got a chance to point fingers at our team captain…statements like “when was the last he hit a six or only if he gave more time to the game than the commercials”… are going around in the social network.

That’s the funny part about fame and I am sure the team understands. No one is objecting to you endorsing all products under the sun provided you prioritize. You are here because of your game and not the other way round. If you hadn’t played for our country you wouldn’t have been considered to endorse any brand. Most of the team players don’t have the personality for it…Face it. And if you already know it then, do something about it. No point crying over spilt milk. I hope the team realizes their mistakes, learn and move on to a better start.

The setback in life and work begins the moment confidence steps up a level to become overconfidence. Be open to ideas, listen and communicate well. After all there’s nothing to loose, you can only grow.

Till next time…. !

I was surfing the net where I chanced upon this particular blog post by Sasti Prema from Bangalore which is a nice read…. thought of sharing it with you…If you are interested to guest post on this blog please check on the guidelines.

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There is a saying that men must work, and women must weep. For better or worse both  sexes have both the options.

A man woman relationship is full of complexities. A great deal of the relationship lies below the surface,A lot of it depends on that something unspoken.

The earliest cross gender relationships are between parents and children. How the child will react to the opposite sex depends a lot on childhood. If the opposite sex parent has been kind, and loving the child grows up to trust the other half. If not there will be an attitude of suspicion. Many spouses wonder why they cannot earn the trust of  their partner. This is  possibly because of childhood patterns and not the present situation

Siblings may have difficult relationships. Girls may feel the boys are being better treated. Boys may feel the girls are being pampered.Sibling rivalry and dislike between the sexes is common On the other hand one may feel protective to the other. Girls often hero worship their brothers.

Before marriage young people do not know much about the other. They need time to find out one another`s likes dislikes, and attitudes.

Marriage is a testing ground.In today`s scenario many women try to be mock men with disastrous results. The complexities of a man and those of a woman are not the same. The man tends to be physical, where the woman is emotional. Their attitudes to family and money are different. In any case they are different people.The man is proud of his manhood, the woman of her feminity. This preserve should never be encroached upon.

Ultimately men and women have the same needs, but their behavior and social requirements are not the same.

A man wants to be admired. A woman wants to be loved. A man wants status.A woman wants comfort. A man lives for the moment. A woman thinks in long term measures.

Marriage is a great adventure. It changes with time. My mother used to say that as butter is made by churning bu, a relationship is churned with time and effort.

It is a thrill to live with a person of the opposite sex.This thrill is there to some degree in live in relationships. There the thrill is largely physical. The uncertainty that dogs such a relationship tends to take the joy out of it.People stay in such relationships, often because they do not have the means or commitment to get into marriage.

Never take the other person for granted. Look and do your best for him or her. Watch your tongue so you do not hurt, a person`s self esteem. Love, or least appreciate the other person all you can. Be generous with your compliments, and sparing with your criticism Enjoy the relationship. It will bring out the best in you.Keep it alive, and dynamic. you are lucky to have it.

Giving up smoking is easy…I’ve done it hundreds of times. (Mark Twain)

Well, after Shahrukh Khan (SRK) the latest celebrity to swear quitting smoking is our Ghajini superstar Aamir Khan. Smoking has been a touchy subject when it comes to cinema fraternity. The stylized Rajnikanth was criticized for spoiling Tamil youth by glorifying smoking and drinking on screen. The health minister Ramadoss was very happy with Rajnikanth when he didn’t smoke onscreen for two of his blockbuster movies last year. Ramdoss’ request to celebrities to stop smoking onscreen invited ridicule and fury; while Amitabh Bacchan got upset and the director Mahesh Bhatt found it juvenile, the candid SRK voiced openly that he is not to be told what he should do and what he shouldn’t!

Smoking helps you lose weight — one lung at a time!”‘ (Alfred E Neuman)

Well, frankly I have never understood why people smoke? You spend money to get unhealthy! How stupid is that? Its good news that smoking is banned in public places in India. How I hated being a passive smoker…ughh. Anyways, I am not here to preach anti smoking, it’s a personal choice after all….but what I will do is,  share with you few funny quotes and a joke on smoking …

Here goes!

“Anyone can give up smoking, but it takes a real man to face cancer”
“A cigarette is a pipe with a fire at one end and a fool at the other”  (Author Unknown)
“The cigarette does the smoking – you’re just the sucker” (Author Unknown)
“People always come up to me and say that my smoking is bothering them… Well, it’s killing me!” (Woody Allen)
“I tried to stop smoking cigarettes by telling myself I just didn’t want to smoke, but I didn’t believe myself” (Barbara Kelly)
“I smoke ten to fifteen cigars a day. At my age I have to hold on to something.” (George F Burns)

Jack, at a New Year’s party, turns to his friend, Harry, and asks for a cigarette.
“I thought you made a New Year’s resolution to quit smoking,” Harry responds.
“I am in the process of quitting,” replies Jack with a grin. “Right now, I am in the middle of phase one.”
“Phase one?” wonders Harry.
“Yeah,” laughs Jack, “I have quit buying.”
-Unknown

After the rigmarole of PB (prospective bride) hunting through the matrimonial site, matching of horoscopes (yes it still is a big thing in Kerala) and chatting up of parents when it actually comes to the guy and gal talking, I am quite surprised at the flippant behaviors of the gals. They either are too busy to talk or haven’t found time to check the PG’s (prospective groom)! Half of the time they are worried about their non transferable jobs. Again, don’t get me wrong, but if you are good you surely fill find a good job elsewhere!

I am aware at this point that had I been a male I would have been branded as a MCP by now; thankfully no one has come up with a MCP equivalents for females so I am spared for now at least (or have I pre empted the ladies to come up with one…I fervently hope not!)

The point I am trying to make is that a relationship can’t start let alone sustain without certain adjustments. One need to question oneself at this juncture, does the PG possess all qualities that you expected for? If yes, do I trade it for a nice job and let go of this person whom you really think you can be happy with? Well, is it worth it?

No matter how much you deny, any lady working / non working would always want to have someone at home they can go back to. And that one person needs to be chosen without preconditions pertaining to one’s career, that is. The focus should be on the person, his characteristics and your compatibility together.

I feel people are forgetting that you need to happy at home to be happy elsewhere….